tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372804060002092961.post190398051268411204..comments2023-10-06T07:13:04.200-07:00Comments on The Jenn Diaries...: Am I doomed?Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04913909897872952351noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372804060002092961.post-5898185360993350432012-02-08T13:59:44.310-08:002012-02-08T13:59:44.310-08:00I know exactly how you feel. I left my daughters ...I know exactly how you feel. I left my daughters dad because he refused to marry me. Theres other reasons too, but that was one. We were together 7 years. I'm not saying leave your bf. Have a talk with him. Let him know how important it is. <br /><br />My fiance Chris I and will have been together 8 years this July. We got engaged New Years Eve, 2011. Almost 7 years together and he finally proposed. He had a belief that a couple had to be together at least 5 years before they got engaged, I know, that doesn't make any sense but I couldn't chage his mind. You can bet that I harrassed him from the very first day we made 5 years. Anyways, we will be getting married next year in July. Thats kinda funny too, I'm the one that had to postpone it till then. He wanted to get married this year, haha! <br /><br />There must be something at the root of this. Its such an important thing to you, he really should be willing to make you happy. A long talk is what needs to happen between the two of you. He really needs to understand how you feel about it. Getting married doesn't change a relationship. Its the people in it that make the changes. They make it work not matter if your married or not.pililani81https://www.blogger.com/profile/01679152517576701276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372804060002092961.post-39940745412567641092012-01-18T16:19:35.702-08:002012-01-18T16:19:35.702-08:00Oh dear. :(
I was single for 29.5 years. I date...Oh dear. :(<br /><br />I was single for 29.5 years. I dated dudes who told me marriage wasn't in the cards.<br /><br />Then I met my husband. From about 3 months on, he told me I was the one. We got married 3.5 years later and have been married for 2.5 years.<br /><br />Marriage is fun. It's fulfilling. It's awesome to have a constant companion ... AS LONG AS THEY FEEL THE SAME WAY THAT YOU DO.<br /><br />Don't get me wrong, my hubs makes me angry on occasion and nobody's perfect, but now that we're married with a toddler, I couldn't imagine life any other way.<br /><br />I'm sad that your man has such a foul take on marriage. :(Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06350815155322545608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372804060002092961.post-90918573538545077632012-01-18T10:36:09.856-08:002012-01-18T10:36:09.856-08:00Personally, I think you have every right to feel t...Personally, I think you have every right to feel the way that you do. Especially after 8 years of being together. I have a few friends (one of them being my very best friend), who is also in the same situation as you (they've been together 7 years and have a child together). Her boyfriend has the same views as yours .. when it comes to marriage. His viewpoint stems from watching marriages crumble around him. His parents, his other family members, his friends, etc. Perhaps that's why your boyfriend feels the same?<br /><br />I wouldn't force him into it, but I would maybe have a casual and friendly talk .. no pressure .. about how this makes YOU feel. Maybe explain that you get his viewpoint and why he may feel this way .. but at the same time, you want him to understand yours. That it makes you feel unwanted, or unworthy, etc.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com